You know when you board an airplane and they show you that silly little In-Flight Safety Video on what to do if an emergency occurs? They talk about flotation devices and life rafts, point to the emergency exits and tell you the rules. They explain to you if oxygen levels decrease that masks will fall from the ceiling and to always place a mask on yourself BEFORE assisting others. Well sometimes that’s true in life too.
As women it’s easy to get ourselves lost in the mix of our family. The baby needs to be fed, the toddler needs to be re-bathed, the pre-teen needs to be picked up from soccer practice, the dinner needs to me made for the family and the urge to please your husband and make him proud of who he married lingers in the back of your mind. So where does that leave you? Usually looking like a frantic hot mess with spit up down your back, in yesterday’s yoga pants, sporting week-old hair. So why do we put ourselves last? Because any “super woman” sacrifices herself and her needs for her family, right? Wrong.
Sacrificing your entire well-being so you can meet the needs of your family is a recipe for disaster and completely backwards. Remember the in-flight video? We’re suppose to put the mask on ourselves first so we can help assist others around us that might not be able to assist themselves. If you run yourself into the ground, who’s going to help you? Who’s going to take care of those adorable little children when you are so run down and impatient that all you can muster out is a frustrated ahhhhh! It’s okay to put your needs first and take some ‘me’ time. Not just every once in awhile, but everyday.
After I had my second child I was in a whirlwind of frustration, exhaustion and nearing a self-diagnosed mental breakdown. Bless her heart but she was a HARD baby. The minute she woke up she was crying, not just any cry but a blood-curdling scream. The only time she didn’t cry was when she was being fed and when she was asleep, which took hours to get her to sleep. I kept telling myself it would get better but it never did. I was a walking zombie. I spent my entire day chasing around a 19 month old, crazy busy boy, while trying to stay sane with a colicky baby. I resented waking up in the morning. I dreaded taking care of my kids I didn’t have an outlet and I had run out of patience long ago.
I knew it was time to get some help.
I was suffering, my kids were suffering and the only conversations my husband and I had were that of me complaining about my day. Our life was turning into a train wreck. After talking with my husband we decided I needed something to look forward to each day, I needed some me time, some selfish time, something that benefitted me and no one else (which actually ended up benefitting us all). I started working out with an exercise group every morning. It was perfect. It was my time. An hour and a half where I wasn’t a mom, I wasn’t a wife, I was me and that’s all I had to focus on. It was amazing how quickly I was able to regain patience. I looked forward to waking up in the morning and the time away from my kids made me enjoy being with them that much more. I was thriving, my kids were thriving and my marriage was thriving.
So to answer the question When do you put YOU first? Every single day. Find something you love to do and do it! Now of course shopping all day everyday would be amazing, but, as a young mom, probably isn’t too plausible. Find something that fits into your family’s schedule and budget but make sure it benefits you. Because in the long run, when you’re not being taken care of the rest of your family suffers too.
What do you get when you put Jane employees, sellers, and fans into a corn maze together? An a-maze-ing time! And lots of “corny” jokes. Get it? All right, I’ll ease up on the puns. But seriously, this event was so much fun!
The night started off with a few mini Jane drops, pig races, and, of course, this little action right here.
And since I’m a little bit of a foodie, I just have to mention the dinner – absolute heaven. All of the best dishes to keep your tummy warm and happy. Cornbread, chili, soup, bread bowls… comfort food at its finest.
Cornbelly’s was the perfect venue for our Jane families. It was so fun to watch the kids run around, their eyes lighting up as they met the pumpkin princess (yes, that’s a thing), played pumpkin tic-tac-toe, went on hay rides, and adventured into the Minion corn maze.
I think it’s safe to say that fun was had by all, even by those who got lost in the maze for an hour #guilty. Hanging out with so many wonderful people was the warmest way to start off the chilly fall season (in more ways than one—that weather was HOT). Thank you Jane for the fun night, as always!